So lesbians wild news, a lesbian name Tracy Adam’s stabbed her girlfriend with a knife. Apparently Tracy shouted “if I can’t get you, no other b*****d’s going to get you” as she plunged the knife into Josephine Hannah’s back. Ms Hannah had ended her relationship with Adam weeks before but agreed to meet her at Holy Cross Church in Crosshill in September last . The 39-year-old – who has a string of previous offences including one for violence – pleaded with Ms Hannah to take her back but carried out the vicious attack when she started walking away.
Lesbians as we was reading this story today all we could think was wow, lesbian domestic violence is not talked about enough, its as if its either accepted as the norm, or its a secret. Why is it that when a man and a woman physically fight in a relationship its considered to be beyond serious, but when a lesbian couple physically fight people react in ways as to say “well there both females” or they say “that’s just what lesbians do”. Throughout the lesbian community we have terms such as femmes, ag’s, studs etc. What has been noticed is that when a femme hits an ag its somewhat taken as a joke but when an ag hits a femme its taken as the “femme is getting beat on within the relationship”
This is why labels can really mess things up, at the end of the day no matter if its 2 women, 2 men, NO ONE should be putting their hand on there partner. It shouldn’t be looked at as light work because its a same sex couple. In many lesbian relationships a pattern of violence exsists where one person seeks to control the thoughts, beliefs or conduct of their girlfriend. They usually have an anger or serious control issue and when they can’t control the person or a situation or their anger they become abusive either lashing out verbally or physically. Some lesbians don’t realize that they are already in an abusive reationship until the physical fights start, here are a few signs that you are already in an abusive relationship:
1. She tries to control you by being extreme bossy or demanding
2. She tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friends
3. She claims you are responsible for her emotional state
4. You frequently worry about how your girlfriend will react or feel about things you say or do meaning when you do something you usually end up feeling like “omg I hope she’s not gonna be mad or flip out on me”
5. She’s extreme jealous
6. She constantly belittles or criticizes you
7. She destroys your personal items or sentimental items
Physical fights don’t just happen, things lead up to it, so if you and your girlfriend are already having any of the above signs then you could possibly already be in an abusive relationship that could lead up to being a physical abusive relationship. Many esbians do believe that its okay to fight because that’s just how “lesbians are”, but its really not okay, you shouldn’t be stressed out because you and your girlfriend just went round for round in a boxing match. We are not saying that if the relationship has already gotten physical to pack up and leave, we are saying that you or your girlfriend should try different methods to avoid physical altercations, such as trying to talk things out, walking away from the situation before things become physical and then when you are both calm sit down and talk, write out your feelings, go hang with friends and have fun so that when you and your girlfriend see each other again the anger isn’t as strong because you’ll be in a better mental state. If you know you have an anger problem tell your girlfriend that you need time to yourself until you can be within a calm state of mind, some girls may not accept this and will provoke you, but ask her to understand this and eventually hopefully she will.
Lesbian domestic violence with in a relationship can start at any moment but it can also end at any moment if you both are willing to do things to stop it. However if it just seems impossible to stop then maybe the relationship should take a break or it should just end altogether, because its not worth having scratches or bruises or just being stressed out. Don’t be ashamed to talk to your friends or whoever you feel comfortable with about it, although at first they may not take it serious, don’t be discouraged explain to them that its really taking a toll on you, and AG’s don’t feel embarrassed or awkward if its happening to you because you are a female and sometimes femmes will take advantage of the fact that they know you may not hit them back, so lesbians period, if you are in a verbal or physical relationship you need to acknowledge it completely don’t brush it off or ignore it, talk to your partner and whomever you trust and try to figure out what to do because you don’t want things to ever escalate like the story we told you about earlier with the girl being stabbed by her girlfriend, and remember if things don’t work out between you and your girlfriend there’s a million other lesbians out there willing to treat you so much better uplift yourself and know that you are worth it! For more information on lesbian domestic violence go to : http://www.lesbiandomesticviolence.com/
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